Being Taken Seriously
When you have been repeatedly gaslit, you are accustomed to not being taken seriously. Sometimes when you are in recovery it can feel very strange when someone does take you…
Feigning Ignorance
Photo by Liza Summer on Pexels.com In abusive relationships, especially emotionally/narcissisticly abusive ones, there are manipulative tactics at play. Abusers use a variety of manipulative techniques from gaslighting to triangulation.…
Gaslighting & Repeating the Cycle
Today I am going in a different direction than was anticipated because I want to talk about how things can be cyclical. We often talk about cycles of abuse. And…
When You Recognize Your Abusive Situation
Something that you may start to notice after you leave an abusive relationship and start speaking about things that happened is that hindsight is 20/20. You will likely start to…
What To Pack in Your Go Bag
Having a go bag can mean a lot of things depending on the context. You may have one because you are chronically ill and you might have to go to…
Knowing When to Leave
One of the most challenging things to do in an abusive or toxic relationship is to find a way out. To know when you need to leave. When you are…
Social Media Baiting
This is truthfully a different direction than I was planning on for this blog post. But this morning I saw something on social media and I thought that I could…
Communicating Needs in a Relationship
In any and all relationships, it is incredibly important to be clearly communicating your needs and wants. If you are not communicating, you cannot expect the other person to be…
Missing Important Moments
Consistently missing events and moments that are important to you is common in emotionally and/or narcissisticly abusive relationships. This is a way that your abuser can show you that they…
Easter with a Narcissist
Happy Easter 2023 everyone! This is one of the holidays that just brought irritation to my spouse. We did not celebrate in the religious way, but more so as a…