Ohana Means Family
Today's blog post is going in a different direction than I anticipated. Because I stumbled into a social media memory that my ex-husband posted from when I went on vacation…
Being a Mom
Happy Mother's day to all the mothers out there. Whether you are a biological, step, foster/adoptive, or pet mom. As it is Mother's day I wanted to share a bit…
“Labour”
This month of April is Sexual Assault Awareness month and it closely coincides with the re-release of Paris Paloma's song "Labour". This version is collaborative and features the voices of…
Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Did you know that October is domestic violence awareness month? This month was first set forth in 1989. It is dedicated to acknowledging its survivors and being a voice for…
Being Taken Seriously
When you have been repeatedly gaslit, you are accustomed to not being taken seriously. Sometimes when you are in recovery it can feel very strange when someone does take you…
Feigning Ignorance
Photo by Liza Summer on Pexels.com In abusive relationships, especially emotionally/narcissisticly abusive ones, there are manipulative tactics at play. Abusers use a variety of manipulative techniques from gaslighting to triangulation.…
Gaslighting & Repeating the Cycle
Today I am going in a different direction than was anticipated because I want to talk about how things can be cyclical. We often talk about cycles of abuse. And…
When You Recognize Your Abusive Situation
Something that you may start to notice after you leave an abusive relationship and start speaking about things that happened is that hindsight is 20/20. You will likely start to…
What To Pack in Your Go Bag
Having a go bag can mean a lot of things depending on the context. You may have one because you are chronically ill and you might have to go to…
Knowing When to Leave
One of the most challenging things to do in an abusive or toxic relationship is to find a way out. To know when you need to leave. When you are…